Daily Dose of Feelings #4

The summer before my senior year of college, I binge-watched all of Sex and the City. And while I discovered that I am definitely a Charlotte, Samantha was by far my favorite character. And never was she more brilliant than during her breast-cancer arc. That story provided some of the most heartfelt, honest, and realistic moments on a show that prided itself on its candor and its ability to tug at your heartstrings while it made you laugh.

My heartstrings have never been tugged harder while watching Sex and the City than when Samantha decided to shave her head after she started losing her hair. The powerful moment of such a strong character staring at her reflection, razor in hand, trying to accept the fact that she was now going to have to look like a sick person was emotional enough on its own.

And then Smith walked in.

Everyone has their favorite Sex and the City man, and Smith will always be mine. This scene solidified my love for him because he didn’t just talk the talk; when he said he wanted to be there for the woman he loves, he meant it. The grand gesture of shaving his head to try in some small way to relate to her better is beautiful, but what moves me the most is how matter-of-fact that gesture feels. The whole scene has this fantastic aura of reality—they feel like a real couple talking about the realities of cancer rather than actors reading clichéd lines about the illness.

Love isn’t always pretty and easy—life isn’t always pretty and easy. And I loved this scene for showing that, while both of those things may be true, the important thing is having someone who won’t run away—even when it’s scary and even if life freaks us out sometimes.

2 thoughts on “Daily Dose of Feelings #4

  1. The season 4 and 5 were some of the strongest writing the show had. It was nice to see them shift these women into a maturity that came with the stability of their ‘family of four’. I loved that scene when Charlotte talks about them being each other’s soulmates because they took it seriously and shifted the trajectory of the show around the core stability of their friendships. It was at that point that they began to discover and open themselves up to happiness that was earned and worthy. For the record I am a Miranda with black curly hair. Her arc into motherhood dovetailed with Charlotte’s infirtility struck very close to home for me. But I really loved how they built Samantha out over the years – her cancer story was great, but there were little moments along the way that I also enjoyed . Two that come to mind were when Jerry yells at her and says ‘would you just hold my friggin’ hand’ and when Carrie confesses about her affair with Big and she thanks her for not judging her and she simply says “not my style”. The show got a lot of press for it’s outrageous antics, but the beauty of the show was in those women’s reliance on one another. Oh and for the record. I am on Harry’s bandwagon, lock stock and barrel. He had me at “and that’s the secret she’s been VonMuffling”.

    • “The show got a lot of press for it’s outrageous antics, but the beauty of the show was in those women’s reliance on one another.”

      I completely agree. The legacy of Sex and the City should be those friendships and the way they grew, developed, and strengthened over the years. The scene where Charlotte talks about them being each other’s soulmates will always be one of my favorite Sex and the City scenes for that very reason.

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