Title I Slipped
Two-Sentence Summary When Danny tries something new in the bedroom without asking Mindy first, Mindy worries that she’s not adventurous enough for him. Meanwhile, Morgan tries to mediate Peter and Jeremy’s feud over Lauren.
Favorite Line “Oh cookie dough, please solve my problems.” (Mindy)
My Thoughts I’m going to be honest with you right off the bat so you can choose whether or not to keep reading this review: I didn’t like this episode. On many occasions when it comes to divisive episodes of television, I fall on the “love it” side of “love it or hate it.” This time, however, I didn’t hate “I Slipped,” but I definitely didn’t love it. There were some parts I genuinely enjoyed, but there were also some parts I am still struggling with over 12 hours later.
Let’s start with the biggest positive surprise to come from this episode: I found the B-plot very entertaining. (Maybe I just love references to The Parent Trap?) I thought Ike Barinholtz was used just enough to be really funny. His excitement over Mindy’s vacation idea was perfect, and I thought him calling Peter and Jeremy “two basics having a bitch-fest” was one of the funniest moments of the episode. His pronunciations of “etc.” and “exclam” (aka exclamation points) made me laugh, too.
It was also nice to see a resolution to the Peter/Jeremy fight—at least within the confines of the practice. Mindy was right; it was unprofessional and needed to stop. The water throwing/singed eyebrows highlighted how idiotic their fighting was, and I liked that we were supposed to see it as dumb and immature.
However, I also liked that I was able to see both sides of Peter and Jeremy’s feud after this episode. Yes, I was genuinely sad for Peter when Lauren chose Jeremy, but Peter still has a lot of growing up to do, which this episode highlighted. He’s Mindy’s “most perverted friend,” and he definitely has a long way to go towards understanding and really respecting women. I thought Jeremy stating that he didn’t “steal” Lauren was a good way to get viewers to see that he’s not really a villain (that and the adorably sad banjo playing). Lauren made a choice; she wasn’t stolen. It was nice to see a TV show address that kind of problematic rhetoric head-on.
In a surprising turn of events, it was the A-plot that bugged me this week. I would have actually taken a lot more of Morgan complaining about nobody celebrating him becoming a nurse practitioner (and the rest of the practice scrambling to give him awful gifts) and less Mindy and Danny trying to convince me that their relationship was becoming stale already.
Maybe my problem is I’m the rare TV viewer who likes stable, comfortable (some might say “boring”) relationships as much as sparks and fireworks. For example, I think the beginning of the episode was supposed to show that Mindy and Danny needed to spice things up, but I enjoyed the apple pie eating and the casual “I love you” (the first we’ve heard from Mindy) while Mindy was brushing her teeth. Since this relationship is new to us as viewers, this stuff is still cute and not boring (at least not to me), and, with Diamond Dan and closet sex still fresh in my mind, I had trouble believing these characters were losing their spark in the bedroom. If anything, this felt like a plot that would have made more sense later in the season.
I will give the writers credit for aiming high when it came to the concept of this episode. I’m pretty sure this was the first network sitcom to spend an entire half hour talking about anal sex (without actually saying the words, of course). And that topic itself wasn’t what made me uncomfortable with the story. I’m all for people consensually doing what feels right for them in their own bedrooms, and open communication about sex is a topic that shouldn’t be taboo in shows about relationships.
My problem came in the way the show handled Mindy’s discomfort with what she thought Danny wanted and the weird tone of the plot’s resolution. Overall, the message of both partners needing to be open with one another about their sexual comfort levels was a good one, but the way it was depicted seemed like one of those episode ideas that worked better and was funnier in the writers’ room than it ended up being on TV.
I may not have loved Danny lying to Mindy about his “slippage,” but it made sense for his character to not want to talk about something that might embarrass him—sexual adventurousness. It even made sense for Mindy to want to try it despite her discomfort with the idea because she wants to make Danny happy. When it comes to men, Mindy Lahiri is a people-pleaser still to a somewhat sad degree.
While I thought it was in-character for Mindy to worry about losing Danny if she didn’t try to let him get to “fifth base,” it made me uncomfortable to watch. On a personal level, it makes me anxious when I see other women feeling pressured to go beyond their physical comfort level in a relationship. So Mindy drugging herself in order to get Danny to see her as more than an “old shoe” was very difficult for me to watch. (Side note: I can ignore a lot of Mindy’s dumb moments, but as a doctor, she should know how dangerous it is to take a sedative and mix it with alcohol like that. Just having her take the sedative and react badly to it would have been enough.) I know I was supposed to be laughing, but I was cringing the entire time.
I was also cringing as Danny tried to explain why he wanted to try to “explore” with Mindy (something about pioneers and finding gold). It made me almost as uncomfortable as Mindy drugging herself to hear Danny try to excuse away his attempt at anal sex without asking Mindy if she was okay with it by saying that men “trying things” is quintessentially American. I understand that we probably were supposed to see this as Danny rambling because he’s uncomfortable himself, but it felt wrong to me.
I did like that both Mindy and Danny seemed to reach an agreement in the end about consent and asking before trying anything new. However, I didn’t love the note that the hospital scene ended on. I know it was just a kiss, but ending what was a good moment of development with “Asking sucks!” was probably not the smartest choice. It may have seemed funny, but it bothered me within the overall context of the episode.
Ultimately, I think this is one of those episodes that I can’t be unbiased about because so much of it touched on things that make me personally very uncomfortable. I’d be interested to hear what you thought of it, because I know this was probably one of the most divisive episodes of The Mindy Project in the show’s three seasons.